Welcome to the Online Challenging Behavior Series!

While working in early childhood classrooms the last 20 years, I have noticed some behaviors that concern me.  

*A child struggling to hold a scissors or draw a letter and then they simply give up, whining for help?

*Needy and demanding children looking for children constant validation?

*Youth who feel entitled to accolades, after completing mediocre work and little effort?

*A child who gives up when the going gets tough and actually start avoiding difficult tasks?

Can you relate to these experiences?

I was surprised to learn one major reason for the decline in positive outcomes for children is related to the well-meaning self-esteem movement!

I was so grateful to gain an understanding of why this was happening in our classrooms (and in the U.S.) and what I could do about it.  Thankfully, when I adjusted how I responded, children persevered longer, became more self-assured, and exhibited less negative behavior like whining (a hot button of mine!)  

Now, I have trained hundreds of others on the easy, evidence-based strategies and we are getting great results and you can too!

*Reduce whining and needy behavior

*Build a "can do" attitude in young children

*Promote kinder and more thoughtful behavior 

*Set the children we care for on a road to future success

View this video to learn more or scroll down for more details about this course.

Watch Intro Video

During this course, you will:

  • View Engaging Videos

    Enjoy engaging video learning segments with a visual Powerpoint presentation with Raelene Ostberg, Thriving Together Toddler Expert, on the webcam.

  • Share Your Insight

    Provide your insight as you reflect, apply, and practice the interesting concepts from the sessions to your care environment!

  • Access Valuable Resources

    Access a compilation of ideas from our live sessions and, after completion, links to other valuable resources, videos, and tools you can use in your care setting!

Course Details

What is covered in the course?

  • Explore proven methods to increase healthy self-esteem and self-confidence.  
  • Discover the three magic words to increase confidence in our fellow humans… especially little humans!
  • Gain strategies to help children learn to solve problems, feel better about themselves, and DO better.
  • Learn the tenants of effective praise that avoids common over-praise pitfalls such as dependence on praise and lower achievement.

What do you need to do for training hours?

  To receive training hours, you will

  • Progress through the course in your own time, viewing short video segments from a pre-recorded live webinar presentation with the presenter on the webcam
  • Answer several questions as you provide your insight, reflect on your learning, and apply the idea the concepts to your care environment
  • Access free tools and resources
  • Take the final course survey

AND.... your course is complete!

You will receive your certificate for three training hours and, if you have a Develop account in Minnesota, your information will be entered within two business days!

Participant Testimonials from the Live Webinar!

Learned a lot!

I learned a lot of information that I can take to my in home daycare and teach kids new things! Trying new things is always a plus for me.

Could apply stratagies the next day!

I loved it that the next day in my childcare setting I was able to take back and actually apply what I had learned.

For my childcare AND my own children!

Her class helped to teach me how to be successful and effective in my program! Thank you for passing these skills on so that I can practice them in my daily activities not only with my Childcare, but also with my own children!!!!!

Very applicable!

This information is not only pertinent to early childhood professionals but families too!

Truly enjoyed the class!

I truly enjoyed this class! It was a good pace and I learned a lot. I loved all the videos she shared. They helped bring out the objective of this class.

Dynamic Speaker!

Raelene is such a dynamic presenter. The examples she uses about speaking with children in positive ways makes ME smile and feel good! She really knows her stuff and I'm thrilled to have found her as a trainer!

Your Educator

Early Childhood Specialist

Raelene Ostberg

Raelene Ostberg has dedicated her life to developing and delivering transformative, fun, and inspiring educational opportunities for early childhood educators and the trainers, coaches, and leaders who support them. She presents nationally to thousands of early childhood professionals each year. Participants love Raelene’s energy, enthusiasm, and real-life stories that bring proven strategies to life. Raelene is the Founder of Thriving Together, LLC, an organization dedicated to decreasing stress, enhancing joy, and bolstering the success of early childhood professionals in their critical work. Raelene is also an Achieve Master Trainer, Trainer Mentor, Licensed Parent Educator, Vlogger, and Coach. She obtained a B.A. in Theater and M.Ed. in Family Education from the University of Minnesota.


  • How long is a Course?

    This course is designed to qualify for three training hours and can be easily completed within that time. It includes approximately 1.5 hours of an edited pre-recorded video from an engaging live presentation by Raelene Ostberg, M.Ed. You watch short video segments, provide your insight or thoughts, and write a few short reflections as you apply the information to your early care environment. To gain training hours, Participants must fully complete all answers to the questions and spend a minimum of 90 minutes in the course.

  • My life is CRAZY! Do I really have time to take this online course?

    Absolutely! This entire course contains short video segments, breaking the content into smaller, more manageable lessons (short course, huge potential impact). You can squeeze in a lesson or two when you have time. Many students watch lessons on their tablet or smart phones while on the go. (Doctor's and therapists' waiting rooms are great for this!)

  • How long do I have to complete a course?

    You can complete the course any time between now and December 31, 2022. You can take the course in little bits or do it all at once, as it works for you!

  • Will I receive a certificate of completion?

    YES! Simply complete all course elements and push the “complete” button at the end, and you will have access to your course completion certificate right away. If you have a Develop Account in Minnesota, your attendance will also be entered into Develop within two business days.

  • Are these approved for Parent aware and/or childcare licensing hours in Develop (Minnesota's early childhood training hours system)?

    Yes! All courses we offer have been approved by Develop/MNCPD in Minnesota and for Parent Aware.

  • Are there group rates for centers/groups of staff?

    YES! There are discounts for groups of five or more. Simply write us a note with the course titles and the number of participants, and we will design a proposal just for you!

  • What if the course doesn't work for me?

    We would never want you to be unhappy! If, after completing the course, you aren’t 100% satisfied, we will provide a full refund.

Course Curriculum

  • 1

    Introduction to Topic

    • Welcome Video!

    • Welcome Survey

    • Course Content Handout

    • Presentation Video 1: Introduction and Objectives

    • Reflection: Promoting Self-Esteem

    • Presentation Video 2: The Well-Meaning Self-Esteem Movement

    • Reflection: Self-Esteem and Racism

    • Presentation Video 3: Promoting Healthy Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence

    • Reflection: Healthy self-esteem and self-confidence?

  • 2

    Step 1: Connect and Build Trust

    • Presentation Video 4: Healthy Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence with Three words and in Three Steps.

    • View Tedtalk Video

    • Reflection: Connecting with Difficult to Reach Children

    • Presentation Video 5 - Giving a Child Wings

    • View Video: Parenting Counts - Giving Your Child Wings

    • Presentation Video 6: Sensitive and Responsive Care

    • Reflection: Takeaway from Section 1: Connect and Build Trust

  • 3

    Step 2: Encouraging Problem-Solving Skills

    • Presentation Video 7 - Encourage Problem-Solving Skills

    • View Video at Link: Finding Answers

    • Presentation Video 8 - Adult Spotlight v. Child’s Lantern

    • Individual Reflection - Promoting problem-solving skills in young children.

    • Presentation Video 9 - Supporting Problem-Solving Skills

    • View Video: Set-Up Problem-Solving Situations

    • Reflection: Video Analysis

    • Presentation Video 10: Setting Up Problems to Solve

    • Individual Reflection: Application in Your Environment

    • Presentation Video 11: WHEN to Promote Problem-Solving

    • Problem-Solving Tool! Check it out!

    • Problem-Solving Boy/Girl Resource!

    • Step 2: Main Takeaway

  • 4

    Step 3: Use Authentic and Effective Praise

    • Praise Poll

    • Presentation Video 12: Give Authentic and Effective Praise

    • View Video: Carol Dweck: The Effect of Praise on Mindsets

    • Reflection: Effective Praise

    • View Videos: The Power of "Yet" and Believing You Can Improve.

    • Reflection: The Power of Yet

    • Presentation Video 13: Giving Effective Praise

    • Praise Practice Session - Effective Praise in Action

    • Presentation Video 14: The Power of Yet

  • 5


    • Presentation Video 15: Conclusion

    • Course Survey

    • Final Step in this Course.